How fathers can help with a new baby?

Fathers have traditionally stayed away from their new babies - this was seen as the women's territory. But present-day fathers tend to be much more involved with their children than in previous generations. New mothers learn how to take care of their baby through practice (no, women don't automatically know what to do!) - fathers can too. Ask how you can help and then pitch in.

(Mothers, are you guilty of thinking your husband is too clumsy to take care of that tiny creature? It's his baby too, and he will learn. The pressure on you will reduce, and baby and Dad can learn to enjoy each other)

Even if the grandmother is around to help, the father should get involved because this is important for your bonding as a family.

A father's involvement is particularly valuable when the second baby arrives. He can help the older child with feelings of jealousy and in the process develop a closer bond with her.

• Before the birth: A Father can take over more tasks in caring for the older child, so that when his wife has to go into hospital, the child's familiar routine can be continued.
• Coming out of hospital: When mother first gets home, the father can hold the baby while she hugs and talks to the older child. When mother needs to take care of the baby, he can give the older child his full attention.
• The early days: The mother will have to spend a lot of time with the new baby, and at this point the father can involve the older child in other activities, or take her on special outings.
• Father and new baby: He can also take charge of the new baby so his wife can have time for the older child. In this way, he can develop a relationship with the baby as well.